A practical evidence-based course on anger, pacing, emotional regulation, and connection for couples from a couples therapist.
Boris Herzberg
Couples & Relationship Therapist
When you feel misunderstood and disconnected in your relationship, and lack good communication with your partner, it can be exhausting and frustrating. As with most couples, it was probably different at the beginning of your relationship, but something got lost or forgotten along the way. The intimacy diminished, the satisfaction subsided, the anger is growing, and so is the distance.
Now you’re unsure not just of what to do about it, but even how to start talking about it – and whether it will be helpful at all. It’s even harder to talk as your patience dwindles, and you might question whether you need this relationship at all, even though you don’t really want to leave. The good news? Many couples feel this way before they find a path back to one another – and I feel lucky and rewarded to accompany couples as they make such changes.
Feel free to contact me with any questions you might have or to schedule a session.
I provide online consulting to couples and individuals who:
- Feel stuck in arguments and conflicts but still want to make it work
- Have come to a communication dead-end
- Experience overwhelming emotional reactions or suppress their emotions
- Deal with stressful events or significant life changes
- Have lost emotional and sexual intimacy
- Miss the closeness they once had and want it back
- Are considering separation but want to be sure they've tried everything
- Want to stay on peaceful and friendly terms during separation when children are involved
Hi, nice to meet you! 🙂
My name is Boris Herzberg and I am a psychoanalytic therapist and couples counselor working online. I help long-term couples resolve conflicts, improve understanding and rebuild connection.
My approach
For more than a decade, I’ve been working with and around relationships as a consultant, coach, and therapist.
Personally – not just professionally – I put utmost importance on the value of relationships, being married myself and having raised four kids (well, and two cats, though they’ve grown pretty independently).
I am trained in the psychoanalytic psychodynamic paradigm with couples specialization, as well as coaching, which means I will encourage honest dialogue between you without pushing or forcing you, generally adhering to the principles of psychoanalytic psychodynamic therapy: following the subjects you raise, analyzing your here-and-now, focusing on emotions, and discussing what is important to you, both in your present and your past.
I see each person as a unique being and thus work in a holistic way – with people, not with problems, so you can expect an empathetic, accommodating, non-judgmental, calm and patient approach.
My experience
14 years of counseling and coaching focusing on the topic of relationships
Worked with 1700+ clients in individual, couple, group sessions (+500 in educational courses)
Contributing author for Psychology Today.
Author of the book “The Path to Yourself. Practical Guide to Self-development” (published in Russian).
My education
Psychoanalytic therapist (East-European Institute for Psychoanalysis, Saint-Peterburg). Graduated in 2022
Psychological counselor (Moscow Institute of Group Therapy and Supervision). Graduated in 2020
Life-coach (MCI ICF – Master Coach, Israel). Certified in 2014
Specialization/Additional courses:
Therapy for couples and families in crisis
-Traumatic and Normative Crises in Family and Marriage
-Dependent Behavior and the Phenomenon of Codependency in the Family
-Love Triangles
-Children’s Fears
-Family and Adolescent Crisis
-Adolescent Self-Destructive Behavior
-Child in Divorce Situation: Loyalty Conflict
(East-European Institute for Psychoanalysis)
On a personal side:
I was born in 1980 in the former USSR (Moldova), moved and lived in Isrаel, Ukraine, Russia, Turkey and in different countries across Europe.
My personal experience is in line with my professional practice, making it easier for me to understand couples from different places and backgrounds, including international families, long-distance couples and expats, as well as people affected by war.
I speak and conduct sessions in English, Russian and Hebrew.
Video introduction
In our work we'll explore and discover together
- What doesn't work out between you and how you can break free from destructive cycles
- What keeps you connected and how to nurture it
- What your realistic expectations from one another can be
- What you agree on and is the basis of your relationship to reinforce the common ground
- How you can respectfully disagree with one another while maintaining understanding and communication
Practical evidence-based mini-course "Anger Management For Couples"
Suppressing or denying anger amplifies arguments. This practical course on emotional regulation and connection repair is designed to help you stop fighting anger and start working through it constructively.
I am an expert writing for Psychology Today
You can explore my Psychology Today blog for insights on couples psychology and emotional regulation, or find more articles on my website.
Let me know and I’ll send you a list of selected articles that will introduce you to individual and couples therapy.
Contact me for an online session or ask a question
Couples sessions cost/week: from 125 € (140 $) / 55 min
Individual sessions cost/week: from 100 € (110$) / 50 min
Sessions and the length of consulting programs are arranged according to your needs and circumstances.
The appointments are usually held at regular intervals usually once a week, or prolonged 70-min sessions fortnightly.
Feel free to get in touch for any questions
Full confidentiality guaranteed.